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The supposition is that fish don't know they are in water. Whether or not this has been proven by science is way beyond me. Looking out from the bowl, everything looks like it's "out there." So we go, assuming our own baseline is neutral, when it has been coloured by a constant barrage of thoughts, conscious and sub. Some of this mental stuff is so deeply grooved, I am honestly not sure how much can be over-ridden by desire to change. I would like to believe in the infinity of possibility, but if you have some big grudge against, say, lima beans, I wonder how you can turn it around. Physics will tell us that it depends on how strongly you can counter-act that program, say you spend all day having your favorite life experience and eating lima beans at the same time, would that do it? The next question is, how important is it to you at this time to bother?Deep in the grooves you have been engrained, or have engrained yourself, with underlying ethics. It might sound like: "Grab what you can and run," or it might sound like "Try to help others along their paths at all times." It's working on you all the time, and is honestly pretty apparent to those around you. Without any clear, established, stated purpose to live, the person slows down and drops out of the life stream. Even if you're entire reason is to gather material wealth, it's the operant status of your mind, and to let such a powerful force just run itself without direction will pretty much commit your future to being whatever your past was.
Now I have some crushing news for you, and I am very sorry inadvance to break it to you. You are going to die. Come on, you knew it, you just didn't want to think about it. So let's think about it. If you only have a few more minutes, you will need to make some quick peace about yourself and what effect you have had on others during your life. Hey, you tried to behave, maybe gave a little of yourself, took home an occasional lost puppy, whatever. Gotta go. If you find yourself in a hospital bed, please be kind to the nurses.
What if you have a few months or years? Looking back on your life from your imagined death bed, what would you like to be able to change if only you had some more precious life time left? Let's assume that new carpet in the den or a haircut look vague and empty. I'm thinking no one ever wishes they had more money. How about the way you handled your interactions with other people? Things like kindness? Forgiving others for inflicting pain on you? Inner peace?
Being true to your own sense of values, that your goal was to overcome that lima bean thing and you succeeded, or you died trying, will get you a soft approval from yourself. Having run all the other cars off the road in your dash for the office will not look so good.I never liked math much, so much was obscure, but you can use it for thinking. Subtract everything in your life that you bother with that wouldn't matter to you if you were dying. Most of the stuff left over is invisible and very powerful. People think of their kids, or parents, or lovers, and how they treated those tender close relationships. Maybe some rich folks think about the library they built. But whatever matters, whatever really sends tingles up your spine, you may as well put your energy on now.
I meet a lot of people on the worst day of their lives, and from where I sit, it's all just as plain as daylight. Anyone with some sense of spiritual dignity, and at least one close personal relation,
gets through the darkness with very little squirming. If your best friend was food, or some other drug, and those things are denied toyou, great suffering follows, at a time when you most need to gather somestrength of purpose. Today, while you still have some freedom to act, decide what kind of person you want to show to others, what kind of actions you wish you had taken all along, and put some basicand powerful thoughts into action. I would like to highly recommend at least one close personal relationship with another
person, whatever form that might take for you, so that you can have someone to discuss this obscure website with, and someone to state your wishes to the medical staff when you can't speak.And if you want to do yourself and me some great favor, have some kind of fun today. If the world could just get up and dance for five minutes a day I swear we would all be happier to see one another even in traffic. How about shooting some smiles at strangers? There would be no additional cost for this. And if you can't do a darned thing for anyone for lack of energy or imagination, at least try to see to it that none of the human animals are harmed in your experiment of life. If you have clearly decided to be irresponsible in your behavior with others, tell them up front, "I am an immature self-serving adult child who cares only for myself," so they won't make the mistake of trying to relate to you as though you were a proud mature individual.
And if you have developed some nobility, god bless you. if you are already up and running, check to see if you are also taking good care of yourself. People tend to be out of balance one way or the other, so if you find yourself taking care of others on a regular basis in any role, make sure you get yourself a nice dinner and a bubble bath. You need to take care of yourself so that you can be in some kind of shape to take care of others.
Lastly, if your have enjoyed or maybe just struggled though this massive and strange website, ante up. Find my address and mail me some of those green papers with the pictures of the president on them. I know you have some you won't miss, check your wallet. You'll feel good about it, I promise. And hey if I caused either a smile or a thought, say so. I could use a good word myself.
One more thing, if you don't mind. If the world falls to bits from nuclear spill or planetary alignment, be able to look back at yourself and really approve of the way you lived, and what you did with yourself, and to others. And if your little world just falls apart from illness or trauma, be able to say that you lived with some spark, that you were true-blue or at least gentle to others, that you maybe even gave a little up to help another along their way.
You'll feel good about it, I promise.My very most special thanks to Leon Gibson of Superior Databases in Big Bay, Michigan, for his artistic and sensitive design and engineering of this website. Contact him at lgibson@portup.com. If you have any similar needs, and you'll feel good about it, I promise.
Thank you Leon.